There can be a real urgency of needing to get over it, but not having no choice but to get used to it.
Pain from a heartache. Grief from losing someone. Patterns with unhealthy behaviors. We're often told to leave the past behind, to move on. Easier said than done. Truth is, I still haven't learned how to be fully graceful with my healing and non-aggressive with those that have had an impact on any part of my life, especially in a negative way. It's not realistic to 'just get over it' to lose grip on reality, especially when holding on has us in a familiar and safe place. We want to get over: the hurt, the pain, the grief, the knowing, and the being still and just dealing with it. But before anything can be done, we have to acknowledge it all. Feel it out. Talk it out. Cry it out. Hold on to it. It hurts to move on, but it hurts even more standing still in the same hard lessons that we have been warned about, thinking that the direction we have set for ourselves is far better than where we're supposed to be. Some people will never change because the people that they surround themselves with have been fit to their box. The way they act, how they talk, manipulation, and abuse. They have been taught by those around them that their behavior is okay. They choose not to heal from within because it's easier than doing the right thing and being a better person. To let go, sometimes, we have to open our tinted windows and let it all in. We have to find patience and have respect for ourselves. Holding our breath doesn't help. Time stands still. You get used to it. But what do you need to let in, so you can let go of it?
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